Ockert J Möller Personal/Spirutual Development: December 2019

Tuesday, December 3, 2019

The letter/s that will set you free

9:19 PM | Posted by Ockert J Möller Personal/Spirital Development | | Edit Post

Just wanted to remind you how powerful you are

As promised here’s the third of three “Let go and let God….” Techniques to rewire your brain

If you have missed the other two here they are again:

#1: Thirty seconds trick to rewire your brain

#2: Do this if you want to let go of negativity

Method #3:

This method works particularly well for experiences involving other people. For example:

· Someone who conned you out of a ton of money that left you bristling with rage and indignation…

· The death of a loved one you've never been able to mourn that left you consumed with sadness and regret…

· The boss who unjustly fired you and left you beside yourself with frustration and anger…

· Etc.

So here's what you do:

Imagine the person in question would be with you for one hour, and think of what you'd like to say to him/her.

(Don't sugercoat it!)

Find a quiet place and time, and write down everything that comes to mind in three different letters:

Letter #1: Write down everything you would have wanted to say back then, or would want to say now.

For example:

· Were you conned? You could write about your anger and the injustice in being hoodwinked, and how this has affected you and your life…

· Were you fired? You could write about the anger and injustice you feel for being laid off and tossed aside like garbage. You may also include what you miss about the job…

· Did someone die on you? You could write about how much you loved them, or how much you hated their guts for that matter...

Express your anger about something they did to you, or your gratitude for the good times you remember…

Please note:

There's no right or wrong here. What's most important is to write down how you feel and what you want to say.

Again, don't sugarcoat it – keep it real.

When you're done, move on to the letter #2...

Letter #2: Imagine the person would receive your letter. What would he/she probably say?

Keep in mind their personality:

· If they were curt, their response would probably be curt as well.

· If they were nice and forthcoming, they'd likely come forward with a response of that nature.

· If they'd usually be defensive, it would be reasonable to presume their response would be defensive as well.

Please note:

If the person in question has an open character and your relationship with them was fine, then you may also skip this second letter and directly move on to the third...

Letter #3: Write down everything you'd ideally like for this person to say in response to your first letter.

This letter is the most important of all three. Simply write down what you’d mostly appreciate hearing from them.

For example:

· The person who conned you might admit to being wrong and treating you unfairly (and whatever else you can think of).

· The loved one who passed away might mention the good times they remember spending with you, how proud they are with you, and where and when they may have fallen short by not being there for you when you needed them.

· The boss might apologize and say it add more to do with him than with you, because he has issues with strong personalities like yourself... or that he didn't realize it was you, and that there would have been plenty of others who’d have made a far better choice to fire.

Only you can decide of what you'd ideally like to hear…

But whatever comes to mind, write it down in this letter. And make sure you write it as though they are actually writing to you.

When you've got your three letters, leave them be for a while… a few days or so.

That will give your subconscious mind some time and space to process whatever you've awakened through this exercise.

Then revisit them, and read them out loud – either to yourself or to someone you trust who's a good listener.

End of Exercises

Just do it, come back to these exercises as often as there is a need and see what they do for you!

Trust they'll help you let go and forever be free from whatever is still bothering you and keeping you stuck.

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Love to hear your feedback on this one

Ockert

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Monday, December 2, 2019

Do this, if you want to let go of the past

9:30 PM | Posted by Ockert J Möller Personal/Spirital Development | | Edit Post

By now you know that I’m “all” about practicality J

Let me ask you:

Has something been weighing down on you that you can't seem to let go of?

Do any tough experiences from the (recent) past -- or the limiting beliefs and debilitating emotions they left -- keep you from manifesting the shifts you want today?

If so, you're not the only one...

And, there are simple ways of dealing with them. (Read on...)

Look:

Despite our wishes to feel positive, happy and inspired all the time… negative emotions often keep coming back to haunt us, as memories of past hardship keep triggering them... (Told you, you are normal LOL J)

Think of past decisions you regret... traumatic experiences and emotionally-tough times... inter-actions that hurt... strong desires you were never able to fulfil... bad news that hit you like a ton of bricks... and so on...

All that “shift”, without the “F”, J can keep you stuck in a really bad place.

That's how unprocessed experiences can have an ugly effect on the way you show up in life now.

And that can obviously have far-reaching consequences in any area of life – even those that are not directly related to the experience itself.

So that’s why I'd like to guide you through three simple methods, starting with the first one right here, right now that can help you let go of any unprocessed (hidden) stuff that's wearing you down and keeping you stuck.

Here we go...

Start First Exercise

METHOD #1:

Focus on what the ‘Bad’ Experience brought you

Think of a negative experience that you feel hasn't been processed sufficiently. Write it down in a concise description of a few sentences.

Then take about 20 minutes for the next steps:

First, take a couple of moments to think of the experience in question…

Initially, it might seem as though it didn't have any positive effect/s whatsoever on you or your life. But guess what:

Even crappy experiences can ultimately lead to something beneficial – things you can actually be grateful for! You just have to look for it.

So try to find the silver lining - any benign outcomes your difficult experience ultimately led to... and write them down.

Simply ask yourself:

What outcomes of this experience can I be grateful for right now?

Here are some questions you can ask to come up with answers:

· How did this experience contribute to your development as a person?

· In what ways have you grown?

· Have any particular personal strength/s been developed and/or reinforced by this experience?

· How has this experience enhanced your ability to meet future challenges?

· How has this experience put your life in larger perspective?

· How has this experience contributed to better value the people who are truly important in your life?

Looking for things to be grateful for not only shifts your focus in regards to the experience itself… but what’s more:

It can also get some stuck inner energies moving again… which in turn can help you process and dissolve the entire negative emotional charge of the memory.

Which brings us to the second exercise…

Patience my dear Watson, J first do this exercise today, if there’s a “need” for it. I’ll share the second exercise with you tomorrow

Try 'm out and see what they do for you!

Trust they'll help you let go and forever be free from whatever is still bothering you and keeping you stuck.

Go on, just do it…… and see the magic happen

Love to hear your feedback on this one

Ockert

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Sunday, December 1, 2019

30 Second's trick to rewire your brain

9:40 PM | Posted by Ockert J Möller Personal/Spirital Development | | Edit Post

30 seconds “trick” to rewire your brain for success, and a practical example

Your brain is built to reinforce and regulate your life.

So let’s delve a little deeper into this and then I’ll share with you a 30 seconds “trick” to rewire your brain for success

This is an extract from our book “Your Greatest Friend and Greatest Enemy”, get yours here

Your subconscious mind has something called a homeostatic impulse, which regulates functions like body temperature, heartbeat and breathing.

Brian Tracy explained it like this: "Through your autonomic nervous system, (your homeostatic impulse) maintains a balance among the hundreds of chemicals in your billions of cells so that your entire physical machine functions in complete harmony most of the time."

But what many people don't realize is that just as your brain is built to regulate your physical self, as does it try to regulate your mental self.

Your mind is constantly filtering and bringing to your attention information and stimuli that affirms your pre-existing beliefs (this is known in psychology as confirmation bias) as well as presenting you with repeated thoughts and impulses that mimic and mirror that which you've done in the past.

It is also the realm in which you can either habituate yourself to expect, and routinely seek the actions that would build and reinforce, the greatest success, happiness, wholeness or healing of your life.

So let’s take a “real life” example: How to Break Out of Negative Thinking in 30 Seconds

Your brain is wired to focus on the negative. Here's how to build a new, more positive, mindset anytime, anywhere

You just got off the phone with one of your most important clients. The game-changing deal you were trying to close is off. They're not interested.

You've just pitched 10 potential investors. They all say they're "interested" but it's been two weeks. You refresh your inbox hourly, and yet still no word.

How do you react in these situations?

If you're like most people, your mind floods with negativity. "Maybe our product sucks," "Why can't I just get a break?" or "Maybe there's something wrong with me."

Neuroscientists have a name for this automatic habit of the brain: "negativity bias." It's an adaptive trait of human psychology that served us well when we were hunting with spears on the savanna 120,000 years ago.

In modern times, however, this habit of the brain leaves us reacting to a harsh email or difficult conversation as if our life were in danger. It activates a cascade of stress hormones and leaves us fixated on potential threats, unable to see the bigger picture.

Neuroscientist Rick Hanson has a great analogy for this strange quality of the mind. "Your brain," he writes in his book Buddha's Brain: The Practical Neuroscience of Happiness, Love, and Wisdom, "is like Velcro for negative experiences and Teflon for positive ones."

When you lose a client, when the investors don't come calling, or when you face the hundreds of other daily disappointments of life, you're wired to forget all the good things and to instead obsess over the negative.

In steps SNSR

The ultra-efficient transformation of Notice-Shift-Rewire

How can we reverse this hard-wired habit of the mind?

Four words: Stop-Notice-Shift-Rewire. This simple strategy puts into practice the core insight coming out of the neuroscience revolution of the past 30 years--the insight that, in the words of early neuroscientist Donald Hebb, "neurons that fire together, wire together." It's the insight that reminds us the brain isn't fixed. Its habits aren't like plaster.

They're more like plastic, strong enough to resist the occasional push but pliable enough to change in response to repeated effort.

That's the magic of Notice-Shift-Rewire.

By taking a moment each day to bring our attention to this practice, we build the habit of shifting out of negativity bias to more useful mind states: remembering our past wins, celebrating our strengths, and seeing life as a series of opportunities rather than a relentless slog through setbacks and heartbreak.

How do you integrate the practice of Stop-Notice-Shift-Rewire into the midst of everyday life?

1. Stop, what you are doing, step back

The first thing that you have to do is “STOP”. Stop what you are doing, step back and…..

2. Notice your negativity bias.

The second step is to bring awareness to this ordinary habit of the mind. Catch yourself when you slip into self-doubt, rumination, anxiety, and fear. Notice when your mind starts spinning out worst-case scenarios about how it's all going to come crashing apart.

3. Shift to a moment of gratitude.

Noticing opens the space for carving new neural pathways. Shifting allows you to flood this space with a more productive focus of attention. A few seconds of gratitude is the most efficient way to do this. Think of one thing you're grateful for right now. Your home. Your job. Your health. Your family. Your talents and strengths. Your drive.

4. Rewire your brain.

Here's where the real work of begins. Hanson calls this the simple act of savoring. It's taking 15 seconds to stay with this new mindset -- to encode it deep into the fabric of your mind.

This last step is where we transform our ordinary habit of overlooking the positive.

It's where we shift the brain's response to all the good in life from Teflon to Velcro. We're flipping our evolved wiring on its head -- taking just a few seconds to build stronger memories around all the good things happening in life.

The best thing about this practice is that it's time efficient, portable, and powerful. It takes less than 30 seconds, you can do it anytime and anywhere, and you will begin to experience an immediate shift in your mindset.

The moment you make this shift, everything changes. You remember your purpose, look forward to new challenges, and face life with renewed optimism.

Try it once a day, every day for a week, and see what happens.