Monday, December 2, 2019
Do this, if you want to let go of the past
By now you know that I’m “all” about practicality J
Let
me ask you:
Has something been weighing down on you that you can't
seem to let go of?
Do any tough experiences from the (recent) past -- or the
limiting beliefs and debilitating emotions they left -- keep you from
manifesting the shifts you want today?
If so, you're not the only one...
And, there are simple ways of dealing with them. (Read
on...)
Look:
Despite our wishes to feel
positive, happy and inspired all the time… negative emotions often keep coming
back to haunt us, as memories of past hardship keep triggering them... (Told
you, you are normal LOL J)
Think of past decisions you
regret... traumatic experiences and emotionally-tough times... inter-actions
that hurt... strong desires you were never able to fulfil... bad news that hit
you like a ton of bricks... and so on...
All that “shift”, without the “F”, J can keep you stuck in a
really bad place.
That's how unprocessed
experiences can have an ugly effect on the way you show up in life now.
And that can obviously have far-reaching consequences in
any area of life – even those that are not directly related to the experience
itself.
So that’s why I'd like to guide you through three simple
methods, starting with the first one right here, right now that can help you
let go of any unprocessed (hidden) stuff that's wearing you down and keeping
you stuck.
Here we go...
Start First Exercise
METHOD #1:
Focus on what the ‘Bad’ Experience brought you
Think of a negative experience that you feel hasn't been
processed sufficiently. Write it down in a concise description of a few
sentences.
Then take about 20 minutes for
the next steps:
First, take a couple of moments
to think of the experience in question…
Initially, it might seem as though it didn't have any
positive effect/s whatsoever on you or your life. But guess what:
Even crappy experiences can ultimately lead to something
beneficial – things you can actually be grateful for! You just have to look for
it.
So try to find the silver lining - any benign outcomes
your difficult experience ultimately led to... and write them down.
Simply
ask yourself:
What outcomes of this experience
can I be grateful for right now?
Here
are some questions you can ask to come up with answers:
·
How did this experience contribute to your
development as a person?
·
In what ways have you grown?
·
Have any particular personal strength/s been
developed and/or reinforced by this experience?
·
How has this experience enhanced your ability
to meet future challenges?
·
How has this experience put your life in
larger perspective?
·
How has this experience contributed to better
value the people who are truly important in your life?
Looking for things to be grateful for not only shifts
your focus in regards to the experience itself… but what’s more:
It can also get some stuck inner energies moving again…
which in turn can help you process and dissolve the entire negative emotional
charge of the memory.
Which brings us to the second
exercise…
Patience my dear Watson, J first do this exercise today, if there’s a
“need” for it. I’ll share the second exercise with you tomorrow
Try 'm out and see what they do
for you!
Trust they'll help you let go and forever be free from whatever
is still bothering you and keeping you stuck.
Go on, just do it…… and see the magic happen
Love to hear your feedback on this one
Ockert
2 comments:
I always had wonderful excuses for the reasons why my parents did what they did.. It made sense to me and people either kept quiet or asked me questions about my excuses, which gave me a hint that they had other insights or feelings around my explanations. Fortunately, after my daughter's birth when I was 29 years old, a few incidents indicated that I had unresolved issues around parenthood that triggered strong emotions such as anger! The 1st time that I saw the puzzled look in B jnr's eyes about my reaction to something trivial, I knew that I needed professional help. That same week I made an appointment to see a psychologist who had a spiritual approach on counselling. Her name is Maryna and I am forever grateful for the breakthrough that she helped me with. I was 32 years old, had a cute toddler of 2 years old and a supportive husband who encouraged me to seek help. When Maryna asked me what she could help me with, I broke down in tears and cried for 2 hours while explaining the hurt of the rejection that I experienced from my biological father. I never realized I had so much unresolved questions inside me.. Step by step Maryna took me through the process of 1st acknowledging what was wrong, then the process of forgiveness and growth. It was truly amazing. After only 3 weeks, I could get to the point where I wanted to see my Dad and speak to him. Three weeks before, when my counselling started, I did not even want to acknowledge him as my father, let alone see him! That was unthinkable to me at the time when I had my 1st counselling session with Maryna.
Awesome feedback, thank you for your feedback Barbara. It indeed is liberating to be able to let go... and through that become alive again.
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